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Personal Statement Failure Formula- mistakes that will get you rejected!!!

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Last weekend I got to edit a couple of personal statements. Some had really great points and stories, but the rest was just total crap. Now, I don’t mean to offend anyone. People whose essays I read are great writers, but they are making some serious mistakes in writing personal statements.

I have spend at least 3 hours on each essay– dissecting it to pieces, critiquing rigorously and then uploading video screen-flow of those essays so that students know a) I am a real person reading their essay and they can always reach out to me for  a second review, and b) they had a quality review process.

When I reviewed those essay, I was ruthless. I went to deep to point out mistakes that students were making and some people will be hurt by this review. But, in retrospect, they will respect that I was ruthless with their first essay draft.

Now, going back to my earlier point, I have seen some major mistakes that students repeatedly made. Not just 1-2 students, I am talking about 15+ students. If you are making those mistakes, trust me, your application will be in the rejection pile.

Personal statement is the best way to get your foot in the door of the dental school and to secure an interview. Not taking full advantage of it can really hurt your chances of getting into dental school !!!

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So what are these mistakes? Let’s talk about them:

# 1 ) Not writing a “storified” introduction

I have seen really terrible generic introductions. If you write them, the ad-com will just hit “REJECT” key. Let’s take a look:

College is my time of seeking directions and facing many uncertainties. There are times I feel the hours of studying and working part-time jobs have no destination, thus the feelings of disappointment and distraught always are always on the back of my mind.

or the following:

I am different from the average applicant to dental school……

If you write these type of introduction, you will be in the rejection pile immediately.

Do you know the purpose of the first sentence of your personal statement?

It is to compel the reader to read the second sentence. And the purpose of the second sentence is to make the reader read the third sentence.

Every single sentence in your essay has to make the reader say: ” I am curious, I wanna read whats next.”

Every paragraph has to be compelling. But the first paragraph has to be SUPER DUPER compelling.

How to fix it:

a) Write a story. Take a look at the following example from my personal statement ( #humblebrag)

‘Shri Ramajeyam!’ chanted the village magician back in Bangladesh, as he tried to heal my grandmother’s toothache for 40 Taka (equilivalent to $0.50 in the US). The cheap hocus pocus failed and ultimately, an oral screening at a local hospital diagnosed an oral lesion in her mouth. However, it remained untreated because of my family’s limited finances.

These financial challenges that have continually haunted my family have helped ingrain the value of patience within the very essence of my personality. Our patience in reapplying for the Diversity Visa Lottery over and over finally paid off the 9th time, when we won. We thought our financial distress would improve, so we happily left for America. But, surprises ensued. Extreme poverty, accompanied by a sudden cut in Medicaid forced me to curtail my visits to the orthodontist, but I continued to wait, as I had always been, for a change in fortune.


“Mom, mom! Amy just fell!” I cried out loudly as I saw my sister Amy accidentally fell of the bed while playing with me. Blood started gushing out of little Amy’s mouth.

My mother rushed into the room. Fortunately she called 911 and took Amy to the nearest ER. After stopping the blood, the ER nurse told us that Amy’s central incisor is broken. Amy was immediately referred to an endodontist and a cosmetic surgeon. It took a root canal, years of therapy, and many more cosmetic processes to replace the damage done by the fall.

Growing up with cracked incisor, Amy was made fun of in her classes and was bullied because of the way she looked. She did not have any self-confidence. However, when she got her last crown just a few years ago, she started feeling more confident and comfortable with the way she looked. The powerful shift in Amy’s self-image inspired me to pursue dentistry. I realized that a dentist not only has the power to beautify someone but also has ability contribute to someone’s mental health and well-being—a crucial reason for me to choose dentistry.

b) Evoke Emotional Response. Instead of writing a ROBOTIC introduction where you just about yourself, tell me a story. Trust me, YOU ARE A BETTER STORY-TELLER THAN YOU THINK YOU ARE.

#2) Selling yourself Short

Ask yourself: Why are you writing a personal statement to a dental school? 

You are not begging for a favor from the ad-com to take you into their schools.

You are writing this statement because you ARE a qualified candidate for dental school AND dental school should know EXACTLY why you are qualified.

If you sell yourself short in your personal statement, you will be in the REJECTION pile.

Let’s see the example below:

Although my duties were simple, such as providing suctioning, by personally working along side dental students, the experience has gave me a glimpse to what it would be like to work as an actual dentist. This edifying experience has cemented my dedication of pursuing dentistry as a life long career.

Do not write anything that trivializes the impact you made during your shadowing, extra curricular, and research, etc.

Dental school adcoms know that the things you have done during your shadowing or research, may not be world class. They are completely okay with that.

What they want to know are:

a) How did the activity motivate you to become a dentist? and 

 b) What IMPACT did you make in that specific activity?

So, I repeat, do not sell yourself short!!!

Even if you felt that you did not make an impact while you shadowed a dentist, talk about how you were inspired by the variety of patients that came into your dentist’s office. For example:

While shadowing Dr. XYZ, I remember a new patient, who walked in with severe trigeminal neuralgia pain. Dr. XYZ will be his 7th dentist! He traveled from all the from Maryland to see my dentist (in Philadelphia).  His neuralgia pain was unbearable and none of the other dentists were able to cure the pain.

I was amazed at how Dr. XYZ listened to the patient and comforted him. Instead of jumping onto giving a morphine injection, like other dentists, he consulted a pain psychologist and came up with a treatment plan for the patient.

Trust me you are impacting somebody by your work and you should talk about it.

#3) Lots of Generic Sh*t, No specific example/stories

Read this paragraph and tell me what you got out of it about the applicant:

My volunteering experience gives me the opportunity of witnessing many dental procedures. The limitless uses of materials to restore teeth and form impression for braces confirm my interest in dentistry. The medical knowledge, which the dentist possesses to counsel patients in preventative actions for oral diseases, is very appealing to me. I am amazed that medicine is also practiced in dentistry through administration of anesthesia. I am truly passionate about dentistry because it revolves around practicing the art of tooth restoration. Thus, dentistry is my career of choice.

Can you tell me anything about the person from reading this statement? Nope!

How to fix it:

Dental School DO CARE about your invaluable leadership and management skills. BUT SHOW IT TO THEM. Don’t tell them what you know. Show them the result and convince them that you are qualified.

Here’s look at an example from my Personal Statement:

Aside from my involvement with the community, I found personal gratification and further enhancement of my endurance while I was taking a sculpture course. After the caffeinated nights and clay-stained hands at the studio, looking at my first project – a clay bosom of Abraham Lincoln, an unprecedented sense of pride flooded through me. Right then, I knew that in order to be fulfilled I would need manual involvement in my future profession.

The unique opportunity offered by dentistry to integrate my manual dexterity with my love for science further drew me in. My passion for science grew in a crowded lab-hood at my organic synthesis lab, where I endured repeated tedious phases of optimization of the reaction conditions. Ultimately, I experienced a deep sense of satisfaction as I produced newer molecules in high yield culminating in a co-authorship of a paper in Organic Letters.

I talk about RESULTS — Something that dental school adcom can visualize. They can juxtapose these results and my application and can recognize me for these achievements. 

Tell stories of things you have accomplished (eg. projects, publications)  and  leadership position you have held. Show me specific results of your work.

P:S: Talk about your success and accomplishment without coming across arrogant.

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#4) Lack of stories in the statement

Personal statements that don’t tell stories are BORING.  If you tell meaningful stories that show some of your characteristics, adcoms will remember you 10X more than the kid who didn’t tell stories.

Bill Clinton said,

Telling purposeful stories are the best way to persuade, motivate, and convince who want to do what you need.

Look at the beginning of a personal statement written by aqz. Study how graphically she portrayed herself playing tennis. Now this is a compelling story that ad com would like to read forward.

Adrenaline began rushing through my veins as I prepared to return my opponent’s serve. All of a sudden, the tennis ball zoomed across the court, blistering deep into my forehand wing. Eyes on the ball, I rapidly shuffled over to the right as the energy stored in my calf muscles channeled into my arms. In a split second, I whipped my racquet through the air, smacking the ball right on the sweet spot. The ball soared over the net to the other side, landing only to briefly graze the baseline. Triumphant, I flashed a smile as the ball smoked past my opponent and slammed soundly into the fence.

Simply put, the return of a tennis serve is one of my greatest fascinations. Contrary to the belief of an unsuspecting passerby, my pleasure does not purely come from hitting a winning shot. Rather, it is from the technical execution of the shot that I draw a sense of inexplicable satisfaction. From the footwork to the follow-through, each technique is a complex art that needs to be perfected in order for the shot to be carried out flawlessly. It is the unseen reason behind why some shots end in failure while other shots become sensations. Hence, I have come to value the underlying process rather than the final achievement itself.

or check this PS written by a medical student at UCLA ( I know he’s med student but the point is story is powerful).


I’m sure, you have better and more graphically stimulating stories to tell. Just remember that it takes some time in getting good at story telling. The more you practice telling those stories, they better it will be.

#5) Not Having an outline for your essay 

This is a killer! If you are writing a PS and you don’t have an outline, go make one. Otherwise, you will write paragraphs like this.

I love that the satisfaction of the dental profession comes personally through patient interaction. I acknowledge the bond between the dentist and his patients is long lasting because the dentist I volunteer with has a lot of long-time patients. Thus, dentistry is truly my career of choice because I will have a chance to close a gap between a health professional and a patient through regular interaction. Through this, the patients will be more likely to trust the dentist’s goodness in his treatment suggestion and comply with the dentist’s treatment plan. By promoting patient-dentist trust, I will not feel alienated from my future patients and will have the family environment in my workplace setting. Thus, this environment will help me feel relaxed and more focused on harnessing my skills in dentistry.

From reading this, you might think this is a crappy conclusion, but it’s actually a body paragraph. To Avoid writing crappy paragraph like this, make sure you make an outline.

Now, if you are just jotting your thoughts down and writing your “first sh*tty draft”, it’s fine to write paragraphs like this. But then make sure you have a coherent structure that you are following to write your personal statement.

For example, here’s a structure that I suggested to someone:

    • Talk about your experience as a patient and how it motivated you to become a dentist; mention that you want to create impact that your dentist had on you

    • Transition to your public health internship where you had real impact on people’s lives and how you see dentistry as a way to give people a good life. Also make sure you tell stories of people you had interacted with. Don’t just tell me, show me with examples and stories.

    • Mention your experiences shadowing. Talk about one or two unusual but interesting cases you have seen.

    • Talk about your research and academic accomplishments. Mention how your research instilled in you qualities that will make you a great dentist

    • Wrap it up with some concluding statement mentioning why dentistry is a career you should choose.

Your structure will be different. But bottom line is : Having an outline will make the PS writing so much more enjoyable. 

#6) Lack of Clarity

I have read something like this:

After seven application cycles, I was so grateful when my father told me he was accepted to a residency program—he was finally going to become a physician in America, a dream he had pursued ever since my parents immigrated to the United States from **a developing country** in 1989. My father has inspired me to pursue higher education so that I may help serve others—and I have found dentistry to be the best way for me to do so. First and foremost, I want to have a meaningful occupation in which I may provide others with some type of benefit. However, I am a very family-oriented person, and I also desire a balance between my professional life and family life. I like how dentistry is hands on and requires fine motor skills, which is an exciting challenge. I found myself enjoying the outpatient setting as well as the wide range of patient populations.

What is this supposed to tell me? The sentences are unclear and fail to draw attention to the main purpose the person is writing the PS. Clarity is one of the most important part in a successful application. If your statement is not clear and to the point, it will be in the rejection pile.

How to fix this: 

A technique that has helped write clear essay/blog post is the following:

  • Create a solid outline of what you want to write
  • Write the essay
  • Get off of your chair and go for a walk/run or do something else (This will refresh your mind)
  • Come back after 2 -4  hours and READ the essay out loud
  • If something is not CLEAR enough, you clarify it. If need be, throw away the entire essay and start writing again until you attain 100% clarity.

These are some of the major mistakes I have seen. Make sure you avoid them if you want to get into dental school. If you want to get rejected from dental school, I recommend trying out some of these mistakes.

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How I beat the fear of interviewing and got into UMDNJ, Pitt, NYU, UCSF, and Penn (featured in SDN / >4500 views)

Bombing interviews was a habit for me.
During my first dental school interview at UMDNJ, I was dizzy and almost lost balance.  I was so nervous that I didn’t (or forgot to) eat breakfast.
At the end of the interview, my interviewer asked me, “Muhammed, are you hypoglycemic? I thought you were dozing off a bit during the interview”.
Basically, that was a polite version of saying: “Man, you just bombed it”
This was not the first time it happened.
After failing multiple interviews, I simply became too paranoid about interviews. I am a pretty social guy. But I just get nervous during interviews.
To get into dental school I had to overcome my fear of interviewing. I simply could not afford to bomb any more interviews, especially my precious dental school interviews.
And as a self-proclaimed science nerd, I rely on systems and structures. I like breaking complex things down into simple manageable chunks and working with it.
When I keep failing interviews, I relied on my nerdiness to overcome the fear of interviewing. So, I broke down the process of how to become a pro in dental school interviewing and practiced accordingly.
a) Create an Interview Question List— List out potential interview questions in an excel file
b) Understand Psychology behind the Questions— What does an interviewer want to know/ (hear) in response to a question
c) Systematic Response and Story Toolbox— Create frameworks and stories for each of the questions in the excel file
d) Deliberate and Systematic Practice— Blocking time to practice and recording video of myself as part of practicing
e) Practice session Tear Down and Analysis—Analyzing bits and pieces of a video interview. Understanding the mistakes and improve.
Results: Fast Forward a few months, I got into Penn, UCSF, Pitt and NYU dental schools, winning some of the toughest interviews.
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 Here I go step by step of what I did to nail dental school interview without appearing as a robot.
Warning: This is quite detailed and long post. Please read it slowly.
a) Create an Interview Question List:let
First of all, I went into SDN interview page ( and jotted down every single possible question that might be asked during the interview process. I created an Excel spreadsheet listing all these questions. (SDN community is great in terms of posting the frequently asked as well as unconventional interview questions.This is also a good list of questions for dental school interview )
This is how I found all the questions. Let me give you an example:
a) Go to SDN interview page.
b) Select Dental schools and then select a specific school. Let’s say Penn:
c) Go to “Interview Feedback” and then view results:
d) Now look at :
What is one of the specific questions they asked you ?
Go through the questions and jot them down in an excel spreadsheet.
There are usually 25 or so super-generic questions that every school will ask these. (Ex. Why do you want to be a dentist? Tell me about yourself? etc.) Then there will be 5-10 questions that will be specific to each schools. (e.g: Why NYU/Penn? or What do you know about our school?”.)  Some schools are historically known to ask 2-3 questions (ex. interviewers at NYU always ask about a situation where you faced ethical dilemma while interviewers at Penn focuses on community involvement questions.
b) Understand the Psychology of the Question
Next, I created a column in my spreadsheet named “Psychology of the question”. Basically what is an interviewer really trying to understanding from asking a certain question. 
For example,
By asking “tell me more about your research”, the interviewer is trying to understand the following:
a) Can the applicant talk about the big pictures and applications of her research in simple language that a 10 year old can understand.
b) Can she give me  2-3 major highlights of her research (really good result, publication etc)?
c) Does she feel enthusiastic about cutting edge research?
(Note: If the school is a research based dental school (Columbia, Harvard, Penn, UCSF, etc), the interviewer wants to gauge your enthusiasm about research. They certainly don’t expect you to do research in dental school, but they want you to be excited about it.)
Knowing the psychology of the interviewer is a powerful tool that essentially allowed me to prepare better answers for my interviews.
c) Systematic Response and Story Toolbox
Then, I had created a column called Systemic Response. The idea was not to create word-by-word scripts for each questions, but to create a framework (bullet points, stories)  that I can easily remember and can answer the question without coming across as a weirdo.
(I didn’t want to be seen as a robot. No one likes a robot, nor does she wants a robot to be their dentist.)
Frameworks gave me clarity. If I don’t have a clear structure as to how I will answer a question, I tend to ramble a lot. And rambling turns interviewers off completely. Also, having a structured response (be it 3-4 bullet points) allowed me to answer some of the toughest questions even when I am under pressure or stressed or nervous.
One of the best ways to create Systemic Response to behavioral questions is to tell stories. There is no better way to connect with someone than storytelling. In fact, Interviewing is all about storytelling. Telling good stories makes you more memorable and increases your chances of getting in. (Note: Dental school wants to know if will be able to connect with your fellow students, professors, and even security guards. By connecting with them and telling stories, you become more memorable. )
Usually In all my interviews, to answer the question, “Tell me about yourself”: I started with my immigration story:
“I am an immigrant from Bangladesh. We came to the States in 2006 by lottery visa. My mother won a lottery that only 1 in every 200,000 people win. It gives you a permanent resident card to live in the U.S. After 5 years you are eligible to become a citizen.”
When I started with this story, I gauged how interviewers reacted. Most interviewers would ask me “ Wow. Tell me more.” and I would dive into the entire story.
I created a story toolbox. Snippets of my life that I found remarkable and share-worthy, I put that into my story toolbox. The best part about a story toolbox is that a) I never ran out of stories and appropriate jokes to tell during interviews, and b) I can always pull out a story in case I faced a difficult interview question.
d) Deliberate and Systematic Practice
After my interview failure at UMDNJ, I promised that I’d not repeat that failure. I had about three more weeks before my NYU interview. I did the following to prepare myself:
a)  I treated dental school interviewing as taking a course. I’d block off my schedule to prepare answers, do mock practice, etc. Instead of randomized practice, I practiced 30 -45 min every day at a set time.
b) I knew my friends were busy. So I reached out to them ahead of time to give me  mock interviews. I video-recorded each of those mock-interviews.
c) I also recorded myself doing mock interviews 3-4 times a week. I sat down in front of my Macbook and shoot videos of myself on Photo Booth. (You can use any video recorder. I just preferred PhotoBooth for its ease of use)
I’d take 10-12 random questions from my question list and interviewed myself for half an hour. I realized that for some of the questions, I had good/great answers to, but for others, the answers were absolutely garbage. Instead of perfecting one question at a time, I chose to do a complete interview because a) It’s more realistic and b) answering one question at a time and stopping to perfect them would make sound like a robot.
Doing a whole interview meant that some my answers were not all perfect. As long as the answers were 80% perfect, I was happy.
e) Practice Session Tear down and Analysis
As a chemistry major, I am extremely analytical. I analyzed each interview twice. I took notes on the following “metrics of improvement”:
a) Were my facial micro-expressions congruent with what I was saying?
b) Was my body language congruent with the way I was speaking
c) Was I maintain my eye contact?
d) Was I smiling enough?
e) Was I answering the question or moving off tangent?
f) Was I speaking really fast?
g) Was I rambling?
h) Was I using right tonality to answer each question? Was I varying my tonal variability ?
I wrote down my subjective judgements  for each metrics and after each interview I qualitatively gauged at my improvement. The videos helped me realize a few things:
a) I speak too fast
solution: My online mentor Ramit Sethi  has an amazing video on how to prevent speaking too fast. Per Ramit’s suggestion, I started to speak 50% slower.
b) I tend to ramble when I don’t know the answer
(— No one wants to hear me ramble. Worse, I don’t want to hear myself rambling. 
— Rambling is quite dangerous because I tend to be vague when I ramble. Interviewers hate it when you give them a  super-generic answer.)
solution: Once I realized that I was rambling, it wasn’t tough to over come it. Awareness is the key. 
Here are few things I have done to stop rambling.
a) I created a post it “Cut the BS and Get to the Point” as a reminder and kept it close to my sight while practicing interview skill.  Whenever I was going at a story for more than 2.5– 3 minutes, I immediately stopped myself and looked at the post it note.
b)I told my mock interviewer to give me hints when I am going off tangent or when I am rambling. And I used this technique I learned from another Ramit Sethi
When you do catch yourself rambling, first PAUSE, take a deep breathe, and smile before saying:
“Oops, I guess that went on too long. What I’m saying is…”
c) If I found a question to be difficult to answer (while practicing), I’d pause and I say:
That’s a great question. Let me take a few seconds to reflectively answer it”
Then I’d think about it for 20 – 30 second before answering. In that 20 second, I would dig out one or two stories form my story toolbox and structure them to answer the question.
(This is a skill I picked up from Management Consulting Interviews, where you are given a case, and you cannot jump onto answering them without thinking. So, You’d take at least 2-3 minutes to structure your thoughts on how you’d solve the case.)
Now, under pressure, 20 seconds feels like 20 years. But I found that:
a) I was feeling impulsive to reply back quickly without putting much thought and appreciation to the question. In those case, I rambled more and more because I didn’t know how to do justice to the question.
b) When I do take time to think deeply about the question, I can provide a really great answer. Having a story toolbox makes the job super easy.
c) The more I forced myself to think about a question, the better I became in proving good answers under stress.
From going through so many mock practice sessions, I realized a few things:
a) Winning interviews is all about  self-awareness  and overcoming fear of failure through a step by step process.
The first step is to recognize your fear. Acknowledge that you’re fearful of something.
Next work towards overcoming that fear– step by step. Understand why are you afraid. Objectively think how you can overcome it. Ask people for help if needed.
[I really like this comment from Meowmixers on Student Doctor Dot Net, where I initially published this post. ]

I actually think it’s human how Muhammed broke it down into steps, because that’s what people do to get over phobias and anxiety: they practice encountering the situation in steps, until they realize the situations aren’t scary and change their approach. Muhammed literally said was so nervous and dizzy, his first interviewer thought he was hypoglycemic. It doesn’t sound like normal butterflies to me, and I doubt Muhammed was able to really be who he actually is.

It’s like someone with a phobia of dogs saying “the first time I saw a dog, I was nervous and it bit me. So I started by looking at pictures of dogs, then watching videos — and finally, I was able to pet one successfully!” — most of us are thinking “Seriously? It’s just a dog. Be friendly.” But to the few people who have lots of trouble, this could be a good starting point.

b) Telling great stories will separate you from other candidates. Stories are powerful tool to connect with other people. Use it well.
c) Preparation is the key. People will tell you
I mean good for you this works but come on, its just a conversation with another person. The way youve dissected this and made it so mechanical is kinda frightening…Makes you seem like a robot that regurgitates answers to make a person feel a specific way about you. I hope youre more personable outside of an interview setting.
You should be yourself
Don’t listen to them. If you fail an interview because of lack of preparation, these people won’t even console you.
Solid Preparation is the key to success in an interview. Preparation makes you sound confident. Confidence make you stand out from others.
Hope this was helpful to those who will be interviewing for dental school soon. Try out my system. Let me know what worked for you and what didn’t. I’d love to hear more.
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Take Control of your Letters of Recommendation (featured in SDN / >4200 views)

by Muhammed Ziauddin


As you are applying to medical or dental schools this year, which part of the process you feel that you have almost no control over? For most people, it will be the letters of recommendation because they don’t have direct control over it. However, from my experience, I learned that you can control more than 80% of what your recommenders write in your LORs. Your recommenders only control less than 20% of the letter, which include a) writing the letter on time and b) submitting it on time. Even you can indirectly control these 20%. 

Let me share how!

During the spring semester of my sophomore year, I asked my physics professor to give me a recommendation for a study abroad program. He excitedly agreed.

Right after the meeting, I emailed him my resume (1-page, mostly describing my extra curricular activities), the program information, and any instruction he needed to know to write the letter. 
Fortunately, I did not waive my right to view the recommendation, so I saw what he wrote:

“Muhammed is extremely intelligent, motivated and hard working. He made a huge improvement in my class (from B- in physics I to an A in Physics II). I learned this by talking to his Physics I professor.”

[He realized my positive sides, but did not give the detailed picture of how I worked hard in Physics II.]

Then, he wrote about my weaknesses:
“Muhammed does not know how to communicate his ideas well. His speech is slurry and it’s really hard to understand when he talks. Although I am aware that he is an immigrant and English is his second language, I am not sure if he talks the same way in his native language. He’s also a bit scatter brained, conversations can turn sideways when someone is talking to him.”

[He noticed all my character flaws and found a perfect media to publish these. Awesome!]

and finally he wrote:
“He is very driven to succeed and I highly recommended him for the program”

You can easily guess what happened next. I got rejected from the program. But the worst thing was that I really respected him and believed that he would write me a strong recommendation for the program. At that moment it was extremely demoralizing to find out what my favorite professor thought of me. 

But that was a great learning experience:

a) My professor totally overlooked my hard work in the class. He only mentioned that I got an A, but he did not mention the detailed story, which would have helped the program reviewers to understand me better. Although I respect his BRUTAL HONESTY, he could have done me a great favor if a) he had declined to write me a recommendation letter and b) if he gave those feedbacks when I was taking the class with him so that I could improve.

b) Also I realized that I should be in control of my application process. If I am the person putting in the hard work to apply for medical/dental school, why should my professor or admission committee decide my fate of getting accepted to those schools. I should be in control of the system and I got to be SO GOOD that they cannot ignore me. 

Using those lessons, I built a system for asking people to write me recommendation letters for my dental school applications. I got into all the dental schools I interviewed at (UPenn, UPitt, UCSF, UMDNJ and NYU). I am going to share my system in this thread. 

During March of my Junior year, I reached out to professors and supervisors with whom I worked one or two years ago. I let them know that I am applying to dental school and set up appointments with them if they were interested to write me LORs. Knowing that they are busy, I sent them google calendar invites at least 2 weeks ahead of time.

I had a list of seven recommenders, who I believed knew me well. I set up face-to-face meetings with all of them (some of them were coffee chats at Starbucks). It allowed me catch up with them as well as talk about my future goals. All my recommenders were VERY excited for me. (If any of them showed lack of enthusiasm, I knew better not to ask them for LORs). 

At the end of those meetings, I always asked them if I could help them in any ways. This is great way to add value to their professional or personal lives. You always want to give before you ask for something. 

Within 1 or 2 days after meeting them in person, I followed up with them and sent them these following documents via email

a) Three solid reasons for attending dental school. I did not send my personal statement because it was not ready yet and I thought three reasons were enough for them to write the letters.

In each email, I tried to connect with them emotionally. For instance, to my research principal investigator, I wrote: “Similar to the lives of the researchers, dentists are in control of their own schedules. Such flexibility of lifestyle design attracts me to this profession.” On the other hand, to my sculpture instructor I wrote: “Quite similar to an artist, dentists dedicate their lives to beautify people’s teeth so that they can smile confidently.”

b) I sent a list of my extra-curricular activities, explaining WHY I participated in them and how were those activities meaningful to me. I listed all relevant accomplishments as well. I also told them about my summer plans. In addition to taking the DAT over the summer, I was going to study happiness and success among immigrant communities in Philadelphia. 
[If you are doing something exciting, make sure you tell the recommenders. Give them stories to tell in the letter]

c) Finally, I sent my recommenders all the forms and DETAILED instructions so that they know exactly where to submit those letters. I also sent them an envelop that had my pre-health advisors’ office address (with postage). It made their lives much easier because some of them were writing 10-15 LORs.

[Your recommenders are busy, so do everything to ease their lives. In case they have to send the LOR via email or upload on a webpage, make sure you mention that in a follow up email] 

I asked for recommendations early April, which gave my recommenders ~6 weeks to write and submit. Some professors were busy, so I sent them a friendly email reminding the deadline. For example: 

Dear Professor XXX

I have submitted my resume and recommendation request form earlier this month. Please let me know if you received it. In case you did not get it, I can resend the materials. Health Professional Advisory Board wants to have all the letters in by May 15thand my other recommenders plan to hand the letters in by that dayHowever, you can take the time to write it and submit it by May 20th (Deadline).

I used a slight persuasion technique to get them to write the letter WAY before the application opened up (mid June for AADSAS). The results were awesome because I got into all of my top choices.

Final thoughts: Make sure you waive your right to view the recommendation (i.e. you are not going to see the recommendations on file). It gives more weight to the recommendation letter. And In case you receive a recommendation that I received from my physics professor, you won’t be demoralized. 

This is my system of asking for letters of recommendation. It worked for me and I am sure it will work for you as well.